One of these days maybe I’ll come to terms with the idea that I don’t HAVE to be all things to all people.
And one of these days I’ll realize that just because someone makes a biting personal remark to me doesn’t necessarily mean that they really feel that way. Most often, when these comments come from people who are close to me, it’s because they feel threatened or put upon in some way.
This has been happening again, lately, with a good friend of mine. In many ways we’re like sisters. At least, that’s what quite a few folks have thought of us. But ever since I revealed to her that I’m poly she’s been…well…I guess “protective” is the best word…not of me, but of any man that is her romantic interest of the moment. And when I simply ask a question (like “How did you meet him?” “What does he do for a living?”) she gets defensive and blurts out things like, “He’s monogamous,” or “He likes simple relationships.” I don’t know….my roomie thinks she sees all the women in our group as “the enemy” but that’s not it. She might be threatened. But not because I’m the enemy. At least, I hope not.
Ok, so back to dealing with friends biting my head off….so he’s a new guy to the community…and I know she’s interested in him…but she also wants to bring him into another, closer community, in which I’m also involved. So I asked a few questions. And she bit my head off like I was thinking of pursuing something with him. *sigh* Why?
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